Your clients are addicted to their diagnosis.

TL;DR - A diagnosis is a lease, not a deed. It gives you somewhere to stand while you do the work, but it was never meant to be a permanent address. This conversation with Jordan Nuemann is a reminder that validation without a treatment plan is just letting someone move in and never pay rent.

Hi everyone,

A diagnosis is a lease, not a deed, not something you move into forever. It comes with terms: a place to stand while you figure things out, in exchange for the real work of the treatment plan attached to the label.

Most people sign the lease and stop reading. They get the diagnosis, and it feels like the whole transaction is complete. In this conversation with Jordan Nuemann, I kept coming back to how often that's where the story ends, not where it starts.

Getting a diagnosis can be the first time someone feels truly seen, and I never want to take that from a client. But relief is the deposit, not the rent. A client who only hears the name of what's wrong moves into a label with no furniture, nothing holding it together.

That's not healing, that's squatting. It's comfortable and familiar, and it can pass for progress because it comes with a name and a community. But every diagnosis in the DSM comes with a solution attached, real skills, real direction. A therapist who hands over the label and calls it a day has cashed the check and vanished, leaving the client to pay nothing toward what would actually change their life.

Social media makes the squatting easier to justify. The more specific the label, the more seen a person feels, and the faster they find community. That connection feels real, but it's often a trauma bond, built on comparing symptoms, not doing the work. Some clients even use the diagnosis on the people around them, reaching for it to explain the outburst instead of working to change it.

Some clients treat a diagnosis like someone else's problem to accommodate, when it's actually theirs to work on. That's not the same as being unsupported, it just means nobody else can pay your rent. The lease only ends when you stop paying.

Your diagnosis doesn't get smaller, you just get better at handling it, and that's the whole point of the lease. I think about this every time I sit down with our therapists and ask what we're actually working on, not what we validated, but what we actually built.

Where in your practice is a diagnosis functioning as a deed instead of a lease, and who's overdue on rent?

-Rachel

If this stirred something up, the full conversation with Jordan goes even deeper into what a treatment plan should actually look like once the label's on the table. New episodes drop every week.

My Reads of the Week

Attachment to diagnostic labels: social media, over identification, and self-efficacy for personal recovery A 2024 honors study out of the University of Mary Washington that looks straight at what we're talking about this issue: how attached someone gets to their diagnosis, and what that attachment does to their self-concept. People with ASD and ADHD diagnoses showed significantly higher over-identification, and a weaker sense of self predicted more of it. Worth sitting with if you've ever wondered whether a label is helping a client or replacing them.

TikTok-inspired self-diagnosis and its implications for educational psychology practice A 2024 paper in Educational Psychology in Practice that pushes back on the lazy "kids are just seeking attention" read of TikTok self-diagnosis. It frames the behavior through identity and belonging instead, and asks what practitioners should actually do about it rather than just complain about the trend.

Debate: are we overpathologising young people's mental health? A 2025 debate piece in Child and Adolescent Mental Health that flips the usual overdiagnosis panic on its head. The data behind it found that 67 percent of young people referred to services scored high on a validated diagnostic tool, but only 11 percent actually received a clinical diagnosis. The real risk, the authors argue, is a label handed out with nothing behind it, not too many labels.

Wisdom Nugget

Vetting a therapist should feel less like paperwork and more like a first date, minus the small talk, with a lot more crying. Watch how much they listen versus how much they talk, and pay attention to whether their questions feel tailored to you or read straight off a script. A good clinician gives you space to unload before they reach for a label, and they leave you with next steps, not just a name for what's wrong. If a diagnosis shows up in that first session with no plan attached, trust that as a red flag.

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Thanks for reading,

Rachel

p.s. If this is our first introduction, hi, I’m Rachel, founder and CEO of Atomic Souls Counseling. I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor (LPC-S) and a Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor (LCDC). After years in the trenches as a clinician, I discovered that my real passion isn’t just helping clients heal; it’s helping therapists thrive.

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